The Telepathic Mother

“The learning we have to do as women, as mothers of humanity, does not come from books or any designated authorities. It certainly does not come from social media. It comes from deep inside the ancestral wells of knowledge that have lived within us alongside the eggs we carry. Our bodies contain the entire future of humanity.”

In their searingly honest recent memoirs, Arundhati Roy and Molly Jong-Fast portray, each from her own unique writer’s perspective, the consequences of living with a mother who does not attune to her child. In both cases, the mothers are influential women. They are forces of nature. It is challenging to be the daughter of such a mother, but the challenges are mitigated when the mother has a connected, intimate relationship with her offspring. These mothers did not.

An attuned mother-child relationship flows easily from the oxytocin driven bonding and adoring love that is the rhapsody of motherhood. Circumstances, though, can disrupt that bond and even distort it. Arundhati Roy was the daughter of a single mother who courageously faced social, political and legal threats with amazing courage and fortitude, but her daughter struggled to stay above water in the wake of what was required of her mother. Molly Jong-Fast was whiplashed by her mother’s relationship to fame and marital relationships and escapist addictions. Both deprived the daughter of closeness, contact and connection. Attunement was not happening in either case, and clearly, as witnessed by their writing, the daughters longed for it. The daughters became writers and activists and each found her way, primarily independently, to transcending the loss of the warmth and nurturance they so naturally craved.

Attunement in the mother-child relationship is not only the oxytocin lubricated bond between them. It is also the mother’s empathy and mirroring of her child’s unique selfhood, and the synchrony of coordinating her responses according to what her child needs. The attuned mother feels and operationalizes the differentiation between herself and her child, just as she treasures their bond. This mother anchors her child in self-confidence by advocating, protecting and nourishing her spirit.

The step beyond attunement is the lifelong expansive telepathic communication of understanding and accompaniment that is harnessed to the unique destiny of the child. The attuned and telepathic mother has the prescience and wisdom to embrace, contain and hold her child’s thriving future as achievable for her. This destiny is of the child’s nature and choosing. It is not for the fulfilment or purposes of the mother or the family. This is one of the sacred contracts between mothers and their children. Mothers protect the differentiation and individuality of their children when they are attuned to them. This quality of attunement leads to the mother’s telepathic prescience about her child. When these are not available, the child has to fight for their own destiny, as if wresting it from the mother. This is depicted in the moving, intense and evocatively written memoirs of Arundhati Roy and Molly Jong-Fast.

In my work and programs, I cultivate the telepathic mother’s evolution. I am calling together the mother seers and oracles who I know to share their wisdom deliveries in the Heart to Hand single mother’s event and the Mother of Medicine Summit. I believe that we are some of the most important leadership voices and presences in a time when children attend school with death threats hanging over them, genocide is committed with impunity, and democracy hangs by a thread. By enhancing true telepathic skills, mothers foresee the time beyond this chaos and dissolution and discover how we can reach there, our children safe in our arms.

The learning we have to do as women, as mothers of humanity, does not come from books or any designated authorities. It certainly does not come from social media. It comes from deep inside the ancestral wells of knowledge that have lived within us alongside the eggs we carry. Our bodies contain the entire future of humanity. This alone qualifies us to be prioritized, treasured and heard rather than vilified and minimized, disregarded and abused, as we have been. Rather than reciting that history, now is the time to boldly face the present and extract language from what our wombs harbor. Now is the time to fulfill our ancient destinies as leaders, unequivocally. This means we have to listen deeply to ourselves and bring forth only that which is true to our essence.

I invoke the telepathic mother. She lives in all of us, whether we have actually borne children or not. The way of the feminine is deep and comprehensive. Our only objective is the love and safety of children. That is our lodestar. Nothing else matters. How do we insure that? The answers to that question choose the direction of our compasses. What imparts love and safety to our children? When we know that we immediately employ discernment. We are decisive. We are fearlessly outspoken. It is as simple as that, and as all consuming.

The exquisite and heart-rending memoirs of Arundhati Roy and Molly Jong-Fast illustrate in boldface the tragedy of the unenlightened mother, the woman who has lost her maternal priorities in the whirlwinds, the dust storms, and the vicissitudes of cultures shaped by hegemonic and patriarchal domination. The antithesis is the attuned and telepathic mother of the world, she who knows the good way forward, the way that honors the precious innocence of children and optimizes their health and wellbeing above all else. That way is simple, but it has become obfuscated. Our job is to uncover it within ourselves and proclaim it, embody it, manifest it.

My forthcoming book, now available for preorder, describes the telepathic mother as she lived and spoke and created art in Aotearoa New Zealand. Maata Wharehoka, who transitioned from her body on February 20^th, 2025, allowed me to illuminate her life as a model of feminine leadership. Her prescience is clear in the way the book’s release is timed precisely for the moment in history when it is needed.

Register for the Mother of Medicine Summit, the illuminating three-day immersion in the Science and the Wisdom of the Prenatal Origins of Health, November 7-9, with Midwife Jennie Joseph, Dr. Cherionna Menzam Sills, Dr. Antonella Sansome, Jaap van der Wal, and others. We are building a Mother of Medicine Movement. You are invited to collaborate with us and be a vital part of it.